my first real job interview in nearly 2, make that 3, years. And when I say "real job" I mean one that doesn't require me to make margaritas or serve various kinds of fried foods.
See, my family and I are going through a bit of a transition period. A few months back my husband's boss, of 5 years, told him that by the end of the year he would be selling his house (which doubles as their office). He and his wife were ready to move back to NJ -- God only knows why anyone would choose to live in NJ, but I digress.
Anyway, with the economy in the shitter and having their twin boys in expensive colleges I guess they felt it was time to cut back. Unfortunately, my husband is a huge chunk of that cut.
The thought of him being out of work was scary, especially when you hear about people with Master's Degree's getting turned down for employment at McDonalds. But when one door closes another opens.
For the last 5 years I have worked off and on,...well mostly off. Granted I've had two more kids and kept everyone fed and in clean clothes, but my monetary input has been substantially less then that of my husband.
The role as the consistent provider has basically fell on him for almost our entire relationship, and I can see the burden is weighing on him heavily.
With the news that his job will be ending by November, it has made my husband have to reevaluate not only how he can make money but what makes him happy---a thought that hasn't entered his mind in almost 8 years.
For me this shift has come as an opportunity to not only provide for my family, but a chance to grab hold of my own career dreams and make them a reality.
What we are now faced with is the daunting task of switching roles; Brian becoming the stay at home parent, and me the 9-5 hustler. It's important for us to have Nolan be at home with family most of the time because lets face it --childcare is often more expensive then a mortgage, and so many parents find themselves working just to pay for daycare.
This role-reversal is both scary and exciting. As I said last week, I caught a glimpse of what my new career might be like as a joined the brigade of New Yorkers swiftly marching to their office jobs. Not only was I thrilled to be dressed for something other than a trip to Hannafords, but I was almost giddy at the idea that I would finally be able to use my creativity talking about what I love most---parenthood.
And speaking of "Parenthood", one of the reasons why I LOVE that show so much is because it presents the realistic and complex dynamics between husbands and wives. On the season premire Adam, the responsible partriarch, has to come to terms with losing his job which creates an opportunity for his wife, Kristina, to take the reigns as the breadwinner in the family.
I swear the conversation that ensued after Kristina tells him she accepted a full time job offer was almost an exact replica of the one Brian and I had, just a few nights ago. It was like NBC put bugs in my house to capture our conversation verbatim. I'm still not convinced that isn't what really happened....
Though I haven't yet found my dream job, I know once it presents itself, Brian and I are on the same page about tackling our new roles.
Have I mentioned how super lucky I am to have such a supportive and amazing husband? Yea, he pretty much rocks.
Have you and your husband ever had to switch roles?
Changing it Up in Boyland,